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The Art of Conversation


20 for fulfilling my request - - Posted Apr 01, 2017

Looking for a practice partner to practice "The Art of Conversation".

I'm an older guy and I confess that my conversational skills are . . . not very artful at all.
I'm also an introvert which means - for me - conversations have tended to be outside my comfort zone.
And, being a guy . . . enough said?

Still, I can't stay in my cave all the time and developing and maintaining good conversational skills are, at the very least, part of surviving "out there".

The Simbi Proposal:
To meet with someone (or more than one) for a approximately 30 minutes:
- solid 15 minutes in the practice of "The Art of Conversation"
- afterwords - 5-10 minutes for evaluation (what went well, what areas to work on, etc)

Some Particulars:
- Be able to meet in the Thornton / Northglenn area (South of 120th St)
- Venue: coffee shop, fast food place (sorry, I won't be buying); park bench, etc
- Not looking for a "communication expert"; anyone (male / female); any level will do
- Conversation starters? We could start our first conversation discussing "The Art of Conversation"

I found a few tips online (many books on the subject).
I will probably print out a little "cheat sheet" for myself as a guide.

What is "the art of conversation"?

From :

"The art of conversation is a necessary skill for almost everything in life. Conversations introduce you to people, important people who could be your mentors, employers, employees, partners or friends. Without conversations as the foundation for those relationships, you’ll have a hard time building a social circle, starting a business or advancing your career."

6 Tips to Rule the Art of Conversation

1- Compliment
2- Embrace Small Talk
3- Ask Lots of Questions
4- Be Nice
5- Let the Other Person Do the Talking
6- Keep it Light and Positive

From :

"The art of conversation, like any art, is a skill of elegance, nuance and creative execution.
I happen to believe that there is an art to everything we do and why not? Without flair and panache most things become drudgery. Why settle for drudgery when you can have art?"
- Show Interest and Be Curious
- Ensure a Balance of Give and Take
- Be Interesting and Have Something to Say
- Be Relaxed; Be Yourself
- Practice - And Practice Some More

And Wait ! There's More:
Quick-Tips for The Art of Conversation
1- Do not dominate a conversation or make it all about you. A monologue is not conversation.
2- Show interest and curiosity in others.
3- Strive for a balance of give and take.
4- Be an active listener by maintaining good eye contact and asking pertinent questions.
5- Train yourself to relax by using visualization, meditation, or other relaxation methods. Being relaxed is vital for good conversation.
6- Do not interrupt and cut in with your own ideas before the other person is finished speaking.
7- Maintain an open mind; everyone has a right to express themselves even if you don't agree with what they are saying.
8- Although this is cliché, try to avoid topics such as sex, religion and politics. You would be surprised at how many people get trapped by them and end up in verbal battle, not conversation.
9- Be prepared by staying on top of the latest news, developments and world events.
10- Be approachable by staying relaxed, smiling and maintaining a friendly attitude.

Thank you Z. Hereford

Reviews of Wilbur

Jacob provided Help with The Art of Conversation for Wilbur
Apr 15, 2017
Very nice and courteous. It was a pleasure talking to you.
Jul 01, 2017
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May 15, 2017
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Mar 30, 2017
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Feb 17, 2017
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Feb 11, 2017
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Feb 10, 2017
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Jan 12, 2017
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I'm a retired guy; in my early 70s. Some of my current hobbies / pursuits are: photography; photo editing; graphic design; yoga; fitness; West Coast Swing; aikido and general handyman kinds of p...rojects. Simbi says I need to write more: My oh my - time flies - I just did a little math and it looks as though I've been in Colorado a little over 30 years. I've been a vagabond thru much of my life - since childhood; around the country and abroad; moved to Boulder from Santa Fe; lived in Boulder and Louisville for a year or two and then moved to the Denver metro area. I'm an agnostic - experimented with different beliefs; never committed to any; pretty secular, but I like new-age and metaphysical because I think magic and mystery is important. Or, as Ken Kesey put it: "I'm for mystery, not interpretive answers. … The answer is never the answer. What's really interesting is the mystery. If you seek the mystery instead of the answer, you'll always be seeking. I've never seen anybody really find the answer, but they think they have. So they stop thinking. But the job is to seek mystery, evoke mystery, plant a garden in which strange plants grow and mysteries bloom. The need for mystery is greater than the need for an answer." I guess, not to put too much emphasis on it, I was on a sort of "spirit quest" for - to varying degrees - most of my younger life and into my 50s. I don't think I ever really "arrived". I've had to take time off, from time to time, to pay more attention to to things like food and shelter. Now, I suppose I'm approaching the possibility of putting myself back on the path . Joseph Campbell used to say "Follow your bliss". He wrote The Heroes Journey and The Power of Myth; among others. Campbell talked about heroes, warriors and journeys (influenced Lucas and the creation of Star Wars). Another book that influenced me in my thirties was The Way of the Peaceful Warrior (Dan Millman). You may see a picture forming - a timid explorer on a "journey"; moving from one path to the next, stumbling toward the top of the mountain; stopping, sometimes for years, sheltering in huts and caves along the way. This has been a solitary journey. I am still "timid" in some ways; still "in the dark" in some ways. Maybe if I had another 50 years, I'd make it to the top of that mountain, but - and this is probably kind of important - it's really about the journey - "being" on the path. I'm not "intelligent" by any conventional definition. I'm a shy introvert. "If You Meet The Buddha On The Road, Kill Him" - an old saying probably adapted from a zen koan. My road has been rocky and littered with dead ends and false profits. Blah-blah, blah-blah . . . blah-blah. Everyone - has their own path. Somebody much wiser than I once wrote: You put your whole self in You take your whole self out You put your whole self in And you shake it all about You do the hokey pokey And you turn yourself around That's what it's all about links: Joseph Campbell Dan Millman speaks What is? Can we get "Closer to Truth"? I want "answers" and "mystery" - I want it all. show more

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