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Help recovering from verbal abuse

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40 per unit - Virtual OK - Posted Feb 06, 2017

I can help you learn to recognize verbal and emotional abuse, which often go hand in hand. I can recommend books to read that have helped me a lot, and provide support while you decide what steps you want to take next in your recovery. I will try to help you see what you can to change in yourself to make you less vulnerable to this kind of attack. I might be able to help you see relationships, boundaries and even communication itself differently, allowing you to break free of the cycle that makes verbal and emotional abuse possible.
Most people spend at least half an hour just telling me what's going on in their lives that led them to need support. Expect that we'll spend around half an hour on book suggestions and starting on the basics. Further sessions can be negotiated for more in depth help.

Training & Qualifications


I am a survivor of a long and destructive verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. My upbringing gave me a poor understanding of open communication and of a woman's right to refuse any interaction, even when people are "nice." I've read countless books and articles on healthy communication, and while I won't say I'm a completely different person than I was 20 to 30 years ago, I am absolutely more secure in myself and absolutely unwilling to tolerate unhealthy communication in my life. I enjoy helping other people find that strength in themselves and learning how to be happy within themselves when other people are trying to manipulate them away from it.

Availability & Preferences


I have some flexibility in my schedulle depending on how we choose to communicate. I'm second shift, and can usually be available via Yahoo or Gmail most of the time I'm awake, and sometimes via phone.

Trading Preference: I’m flexible, just hit me up!

Reviews of Victoria


Maria received session of Help tweak your online profile from Victoria
May 29, 2019
Victoria gave some great advice. I'm looking forward to working with her again
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Inactive User received unit of Ask a Dominant Woman from Victoria
Feb 13, 2018
Victoria is always full of knowlegde and a wonderful book list ! I always appriciate her insight!
Rachelle received unit of Answer a sewing/pattern question from Victoria
Jan 10, 2018
Excellent advice, friendly, and quick! Thanks Victoria!
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Inactive User received hour of Basic Life Coaching session from Victoria
Nov 02, 2017
I definitely reccomend Victoria's coaching. She helped me uncover some blind spots and things you I have been overlooking . Thank you
May 20, 2017
My experience was some of the best ever. It started out kinda nervous cause I normally don't meet people in person. I went with my fiance who got the ...back massage. She walked me through how to do it on my own while I was watching her do it. She was funny, clever, and extremely easy to get along with. My fiance made friends with her so fast. It was originally set for 50, but I received such incredible service I wanted her to have a bit extra. I will be going back over to her house again in the future. show more
Michael received session of Help tweak your online profile from Victoria
Mar 11, 2017
Specific, super useful advice. Much appreciated.
Jess received session of Help tweak your online profile from Victoria
Mar 03, 2017
What a great person and great review! :) Definitely recommend her to anyone! :D
Emilie received Help with Makeup Tutorial from Victoria
Feb 17, 2017
Victoria is incredible! She is very knowledgeable when it comes to makeup, and she is a great instructor.
Emilie received Help with Makeup Tutorial from Victoria
Feb 17, 2017
Victoria is amazing! She is super helpful, and I feel much more confident doing my makeup after our skype session.
Philip received unit of Ask a Dominant Woman from Victoria
Feb 10, 2017
Great Advice, Awesome person to talk to, If you are around the scene you should all take the time and ask a question or two.


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About Victoria Boyd

I do... ah geez... I do so much stuff. I keep needing things and having to learn how to do new stuff, and then other people need stuff.... My talent is in creating things, fixing things, and just ge...nerally figuring things out. I am drowning in cool craft projects all the time, except when I am working on the home renovations that never end. I am a computer tech in my day job. I install my own hardware and software, and diagnose problems for other people when asked respectfully. I never do it for free, but I have done it for baked goods. :) I can teach you basic computing skills, basic photo editing, and how to make a web page. I bellydance, having started in 1996 and although I don't get to do it often, I still enjoy dancing at goth clubs, around bonfires, or anywhere the energy is good and the music moves me. I can perform, and I do teach. I sew, and I design and make bellydance, goth, and Renaissance costuming, I often make my own patterns. I was a licensed massage therapist specializing in neck and shoulder pain. Now I work on friends and family. I have a chair and two tables, and a funny little face cradle that will sit on a desk when there's no room for anything bigger. I can work in my house, if you seem safe, or I can go to your location, although I may bring a safety companion. I had an apprentice hairdressing license way back when. I still do hair and makeup for friends and family. I am involved in animal rescue. I can show you how to provide IV fluids to an ailing pet, give you advice on how to take care of a rescued kitten, and get you in touch with people who do pet massage if your fur person has aches or arthritis. I dabble in herbal arts. I have made therapeutic magnesium lotions, mixed aromatherapy massage oils, and plan to try soap as soon as life slows down a bit. I can give you recipes or finished products. I do my own brakes, and can probably help you learn to do yours, as well as how to check your fluids and change a tire. In some cars, I can teach you how to replace your spark plugs and wires, filters, etc. I am becoming knowledgeable about permaculture gardening. I can tell you how to improve your soil with things most people throw out, and how to set up a garden so that you get better food for less money, and you know what went into it and on it. I can help you set up compost, find free compost components, and get started with less work. I find creative home decor solutions. I love finding ways to make something fabulous with the least amount of money, although it's not always the least amount of work. Sometimes more effort is worth the results. I am VERY good at thrifting. I have often shopped for other people at thrift stores and found things they would never have imagined. I have cultivated a skill for finding out when something is worth the price, when it's a great investment, and when it could be found better elsewhere. I have had a very... interesting life, which required a lot of growth and a lot of education into healthy communication and relationships. I have been told I am "wise and kind" when talking people through their problems to help them find a better perspective on things or a better way to do things. I have also helped people write out their thoughts when needed, helped them edit what they've written to be more accurate or concise, to clarify, or to be less confrontational, or more assertive, etc. Sometimes I just help them realize what they really want, or admit to themselves what they already know. I have strong verbal skills, and plenty of writing experience, so I can help you set up online profiles for dating or business. I can also help you edit digital photos and art for your profile or web page. I am involved in some alternative lifestyle activities, and have lots of valuable information to share with anyone that wants to learn and get involved. I can be a munch buddy if you want company the first time you to to an event, as well. And I can give you valuable insight on how to avoid unsafe players. show more

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