I am offering marriage/relationship advice based on my 23 years of marriage experience, having been married since I was 17 years old.
Our conversation will be through email with a limit of 10 emails and my responses. I prefer email because it gives me the opportunity formulate a well-thought-out response, and it gives you the opportunity to consider my response and ask any follow-up questions. During our email conversation, I will answer questions regarding:
-- Communication skills
-- Work/family balance
-- How to deal with separations
-- How to recognize emotional/verbal abuse
-- The difference between arguments and productive disagreement
-- How to navigate financial disagreements
-- How to find common ground with decisions on raising children
-- How to navigate mental illness in yourself or your partner
-- How to handle being a caregiver for a partner with a long-term illness
-- Deciding whether a relationship/marriage is worth salvaging, or when to call it quits
-- Making relationships work despite fundamental personality differences
-- Positive and negative forms self-sacrifice and change within a relationship.
** PLEASE NOTE- I am not going to beat around the bush or tell you what you want to hear. I am going to tell you the truth, whether it hurts or not. My approach to relationships is that any marriage can be saved that does not involve cheating or beating. If either of those issues are involved, I will not hesitate to advise you to leave the relationship immediately. If neither of those are involved, I am not going to give you an easy way out and tell you to end it. Relationships are hard work, and the advice I give you might include hard work.
It goes without saying that your name, anything, and everything we talk about during our session will be held in the strictest confidence.
** If you are a male or would like a male perspective, my husband is more than willing to perform this service, as well.
Training & Qualifications
I have been married to the same man since I was 17 years old and we have raised two children together. My husband spent 20 years on active duty in the Army. During that time, we raised and homeschooled our children, and I worked as a work-at-home mother. He is now retired and our children are adults, and we are still very happily married. We have overcome 4 combat deployments and many other separations, his diagnosis of multiple sclerosis 5 years ago, financial mistakes as well as prosperity, growing apart as well as growing together, and everything in between. If you have a question, I can answer it. If you have a problem, I can help you navigate it. During the course of our 23 years, we have made every mistake a couple can make and have come through on the other side stronger, more determined, and more in love. We are not perfect people or perfect parents, but through all of our mistakes, we have learned that perfection is not the goal in a successful marriage. Love, friendship, selflessness, and accepting all of our imperfections are the goal to a successful relationship. During my conversation with you, you will learn that the reality of marriage is not what you see on TV. You will learn that unconditional love is a myth. Happiness, passion, friendship, and partnership are concepts that require work. Both of you have faults, and both of you should learn to acknowledge those faults and love the other enough to be willing to effect change within yourself to keep that love alive.
Availability & Preferences
M-F from 12p to 8p EST.