This week’s focus point: Influence is in inverse proportion to distance. It’s easiest to influence when we’re together, which is why politicians still travel the country making speeches and shaking hands. Email is one dimensional, phone two dimensional, meetings three dimensional. Yet so many in business default to email instead of personal contact. No one has ever charmed me with an email, and the last major purchase I made due to a cold phone call was in 1988. But enthusiasm is contagious when we’re face-to-face
I am a “Connector“
”Connectors are exceptionally kind and loving people…They always find something to appreciate. They can get lost in the beauty of a starry night or a frog on a lily pad. They see beauty in children, and they find a natural radiance and splendor in the aged. They have no desire to judge anyone in low-energy negative terms, and they …know that the all-creating Source brings only beauty into material form and so it is always available.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
“Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds” Albert Einstein
How I Decided to Be a Coach
One day, I finally got it. “I am a coach,” I thought. What is a coach? To me, a coach is a person who is your friend, someone who really cares about you. A coach is committed to helping you be the best that you can be. A coach will challenge you, not let you off the hook. Coaches have knowledge and experience because they have been there before. They are not any better than the people they are coaching. This took away my need to have to be perfect for the people I was “teaching.” In fact, the people they coach may have natural abilities superior to their own. But because coaches have concentrated their power in a particular area for years, they can teach you one or two distinctions that can immediately transform your performance in a matter of moments.
Sometimes coaches can teach you new information, new strategies and skills. They show you how to get measurable results. Sometimes a coach does not even teach you something new, but they remind you of what you need to do at just the right moment, and they push you to do it. I thought, “What I truly am is a Coach”. I help to coach people on how to achieve what they really want more quickly and more easily.” And everyone needs a coach, whether it’s a top-level executive, a graduate student, a homemaker, a homeless person, or the president of the United States! As soon as I started using this metaphor, it immediately changed the way I felt about myself. I felt less stressed, more relaxed, and closer to people. I didn’t have to be “perfect” or “better.” I began to have more fun, and my impact on people multiplied manifold.