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BFB: 21-Day Celebration (Memorial)

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21 DAY CELEBRATION CHALLENGE

Our mourning has changed. No hugs, no stories, at least not face-to-face. It's a very difficult time for people to lose someone, and there have been so many losses. There has been so much sadness.

When our loved one is taken, especially at first, we have no choice but to think about it. No words can undo it. We swim in it, breathe in it, often feel like we’re drowning in it.

I’ve lost people and the only thing that pulled me back was knowing I was loved and that I wasn’t alone.

If you have lived even a short time on this planet, and if you’ve allowed yourself to love, you know exactly what I mean.

I create 21-day challenges for friends and families in mourning. This would include a daily blurb with graphics. (See photos examples, "Celebrating LeoLady")

When our friend left us on April 18th, I wanted to find a way to channel my sadness and help her friends who were very close to her and grieving. I used her first 21 posts on KindSpring.org, giving a lovely glimpse into a beautiful life. I hosted two challenges; one a week after she transitioned and then one in July on her birthday from this year forward.

If you would like to do a remembrance like this for someone you loved and lost and need help getting started, please let me know. If you want to host it yourself and just need help with the mechanics of the 21-day hosting, or if you want me to host, I can do either one. What I would need from you would be enough materials and photos to create at least 21 days of blurbs for the emails. This would be saved on KindSpring and could be revisited any time you want.

RUNNING-FOR-JOY
Alternatively, I found another way to honor someone I loved who died. She was killed by a drunk driver the summer after graduating 2nd in her class from MIT. So we honor her memory on her birthday with a Running-for-Joy-5k/1mile walk. So beginning last year, our 7th, we offered to carry the names of loved ones. Note: This walk/run can be done anywhere and all participants are welcome. There is a Facebook group for this walk hosted by Joy's former fiance, John. If you need the link, send me a message.

More than anything else, I wanted people who are grieving to know what I needed to hear, and hear often:

☼ You are loved.
☼ This will not kill you, though you may feel as though you are dying.
☼ When you feel you can’t go on, please reach out. Help is all around.
☼ Even though you may not believe it right now, you won’t be sad forever, not all the time. You will, however, never be completely free of this grief, so long as you are brave enough to remember.

May you find peace when you remember the love you shared.

♥. Niki Flow

Training & Qualifications


I have a lot of experience with grief rituals. I learned how much they helped my children when we lost our little one, Sara, in 1995 and then our Samuel a year later. More on that here:   One Woman's Story.
https://wp.me/p5lq9a-1M

Rituals are important.  They are doors to a new life, paths to healing, a place of connection, a way to let go, or to never let go but to grow strong enough to hold on.  It is all a very personal journey. In my country alone, we have lost over 100,000 people to COVID. That's more than 200,000 families that need to mourn.  Yet death and grief and mourning are rarely spoken about.

In the Japanese culture, the nōkanshi prepares the loved one ritualistically for burial. It is an act of deep love and compassion.  The nōkanshi is a stranger to the family, but they prepare and hold this sacred space for the families to mourn.  That is what I am offering in a sense; not a physical space, but a sacred one of gathering nonetheless.    

This is under the 356grateful Pay-It-Forward Buttons-for-Benjamin post here:
https://intuitive.simbi.com/niki-flow/365-small-acts-of-kindness

Availability & Preferences


Flexible. Send me a PM

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Reviews of Niki


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Jul 18, 2020
We didn’t get to complete our deal, but it was still nice working with Niki and I hope I get another chance.
Mariana received session of 365 Small Acts of Kindness from Niki
May 06, 2020
Niki is a kind soul with the gift of expression. I appreciated the poem very much and am grateful to have connected with Niki.
Mariana provided package of Daily Exercise Accountability Buddy for Niki
Jan 10, 2020
Niki has been an excellent exercise accountability partner. We have been checking in daily and she is very encouraging.
Rachel provided unit of Poem for Niki
Sep 16, 2019
Niki is so unbelievably sweet! So glad i met her.
Rene received unit of B4B/1PD/2: Sonnet, Poem, Haiku from Niki
Aug 08, 2019
Niki is officially the nicest person I have met online. Hope we become friends one day!
Katrina received session of 365 Small Acts of Kindness from Niki
Jul 29, 2019
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Lou received unit of B4B/1PD/3: Record a Short Story from Niki
Jul 11, 2019
Such a lovely person to work with.
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Jul 10, 2019
It was very nice to do a second deal with Niki. An easy , friendly and reliable person. I loved it!
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Ashleah provided unit of Rewrite your resume + Provide notes for Niki
Jul 07, 2019
She is so pleasant and understanding!
Tess received unit of B4B/1PD/2: Sonnet, Poem, Haiku from Niki
Jul 02, 2019
What I got from Niki is so much better then what I hoped for! An amazing artist with words. Friendly, kind, understanding. I can never thank you eno...ugh Niki !show more


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Seeking Creatives
Seeking homeless and other creatives to feature on under1000skies.org as well as city liaisons. In a nutshell, under1000skies is about connecting homeless creatives to each other and to the worl...

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About Niki Flow

Hi, I'm Niki. I worked for most of my life as legal or executive support. Currently, I am a freelance writer, a talent scout for under1000skies.org (focusing on the talents whenever possible of homel...ess creatives); the co-creator and volunteer liaison/trainer of Volunteer Biographers; and a volunteer scribe and bio-writer for Awakin.org. I am passionate about hosting and participating in 21-day Challenges on Kindspring.org and have written a few. Since 2014 I've hosted 29 and participated in another 20 or so. It's a beautiful way to connect with light-filled people and a great start to the day. (KindSpring.org, Awakin.org, and ServiceSpace.org were founded by Nipun Mehta on the idea of "Giftivism." For more information about "giftivism," see Nipun's TedX Talk: "Designing for Generosity" on YouTube.) I'm a mom and new grandmom; an amateur musician, singer-songwriter, and artist; and I am a world citizen. I believe that life is in two parts -- finding your passion, then giving it back to the world. The operative word here is "give." "I am planting seeds, nothing more." I sign my name "♥." meaning "love, period." Love is the most powerful force in the universe. I have learned how to choose love over fear in order to become strong and resilient through some tough times. I love meeting new people. We are all connected. show more

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