BFB: 21-Day Celebration (Memorial)
21 DAY CELEBRATION CHALLENGE
Our mourning has changed. No hugs, no stories, at least not face-to-face. It's a very difficult time for people to lose someone, and there have been so many losses. There has been so much sadness.
When our loved one is taken, especially at first, we have no choice but to think about it. No words can undo it. We swim in it, breathe in it, often feel like we’re drowning in it.
I’ve lost people and the only thing that pulled me back was knowing I was loved and that I wasn’t alone.
If you have lived even a short time on this planet, and if you’ve allowed yourself to love, you know exactly what I mean.
I'd be willing to create 21-day challenges for families in mourning. This would include a daily blurb with graphics. (See photos examples, "Celebrating LeoLady")
When our friend left us on April 18th, I wanted to find a way to channel my sadness and help her friends who were very close to her and grieving. I used her first 21 posts on KindSpring, giving a lovely glimpse into a beautiful life. For our friend, I am hosting three challenges now; then, one in August on her birthday; then, one every year after that.
If you would like to do a challenge like this for someone you loved and lost and need help getting started, please let me know. If you want to host it and just need help, or if you want me to host, I can do either one.
What I would need from you would be enough materials and photos to create at least 21 days of blurbs for the emails. This would be saved on KindSpring and could be revisited any time you want.
Alternatively, I found another way to honor someone I loved who died. She was killed by a drunk driver the summer after graduating 2nd in her class from MIT. So we honor her memory on her birthday with Running-for-Joy-5k.
More than anything, I wanted people who are grieving to know that they are not alone and to remind them of what I needed to hear, over and over:
You are loved. This will not kill you, though you may feel as though you are dying. When you feel you can’t go on, please reach out. Help is all around. And, even though you may not believe it right now, you won’t be sad forever, not all the time. You will, however, never be completely free of this grief, so long as you are brave enough to remember.
May you find peace and joy most of all when you remember the love you shared.
♥. Niki Flow
Training & Qualifications
I have a lot of experience with grief rituals. I learned how much they helped my children when we lost our little one, Sara, in 1995. More on that here: One Woman's Story.
Rituals are important. They are doors to a new life, paths to healing, a place of connection, a way to let go, or to never let go but to grow strong enough to hold on. It is all a very personal journey. In my country alone, we have lost nearly 100,000 people. That's 100,000 families that need to mourn. Yet death and grief and mourning are rarely spoken about.
In the Japanse culture, the nōkanshi prepares the loved one ritualistically for burial. It is an act of deep love and compassion. The nōkanshi is a stranger to the family, but they prepare and hold this sacred space for the families to mourn. That is what I am offering in a sense; not a physical space, but a sacred one of gathering nonetheless.
This is under the 356grateful Pay-It-Forward Buttons-for-Benjamin post here:
Availability & Preferences
Flexible. Send me a PM